Today is my dad’s birthday. In honor of the man whose knees were probably never the same after being wedged in that play house, here are five lessons I’ve learned from him.
Treat your things with respect
My dad had an amazing workshop in the garage of the home I grew up on. The floor was frequently swept, all the tools were hung on the pegboard wall, each in its place, and everything was well maintained. Whenever I walked through the door I was struck equally by the scent of sawdust and my dad’s obvious pride in his workspace. He always knew where to find everything, and if something had to be replaced, it was because it had been well and truly worn out – not because it hadn’t been taken care of.
Lighten up
My dad is funny. Rare is the family gathering that doesn’t leave me laughing so hard I have tears rolling down my face and wheezing and clapping like an emphysemic seal. I’ve long admired his ability to maintain that sense of humor and good nature under almost any circumstance.
Surround yourself with uplifting people
My definition of uplifting varies from that of my dad’s, and I’m sure yours is a little different, too. What I’ve learned from watching my dad’s friendships over the years is that people who believe in you and share many of your values bring out the best in you – and you bring out the best in them. As we grow and change those friendships may evolve, too. But sometimes they don’t, and that means we may need to create some space around ourselves so that there will be more room for the positive, affirming kinds of friendship that will ultimately bring us the most joy.
Take time for yourself
My dad plays the drums. He shoots targets in the rural New Hampshire woods. He lovingly maintains and makes updates to his motorcycle. No matter how busy he gets, he always makes time for his hobbies. He may not meditate or do yoga, and he doesn’t need to – he’s developed his own personal self care practice. I have no doubt that he’d put on his own oxygen mask before helping his seatmate – and that’s the way it should be. I’m certain that he’s able to handle life’s demands in large part due to his pursuit of the things he finds most enjoyable.
There’s always money in the banana stand
Oh, sorry, that wasn’t my dad.
Doesn’t mean it’s not solid advice.
What a sweet gift to your dad! Yeah, his knees have never been the same. Or his back.
So, were you dialing 911 so they’d bring the Jaws of Life to extricate your dad?
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Hey sweetie!
Between you, your Mom and the well wishers on Facebook I’m pretty much reduced to a blubbering old man! sniff, sniff. I really didn’t think I’d get all emotional as I got older, but here I am. Thank you for your kind words. Along with your Mom, You and Leslie are the greatest gifts God could ever give me. I have no idea what I did to deserve these precious gifts but I certainly am thankful and I am continually amazed at the wonderful ladies you are!
Love you a million! Dad